Everyone gets scared at one point in life. In childhood, we are afraid of the darkness and gradually as we grow older, this fear also starts changing its form. Slowly the fear of death, rejection or losing our dear person takes place in our hearts. People are connected to others in many ways, especially those who care about their loved ones.
Often a feeling takes place in our mind that those people whom we love and consider as our own, do not need us at all. Whether it is in love, friendship or job. The feeling of rejection gives rise to many negative thoughts in you and the fear of this rejection starts when you feel that your parent’s love is conditional for you.
Some people knowingly or unknowingly make psychology that when they do something that their parents like, their parents show a lot of love for them and when they do something that they hate, then they start feeling that their parents do not love them. They start thinking of it as their parent’s rejection. But that is only their anger, not rejection.
This fear of rejection is mostly in everyone’s mind. If this fear is in your mind too, this article is for you. Today in this article, I will share some tips with you which will help you in reducing your fear.
1) Learn from rejection
Suppose you have applied for a job and you want that job. Your interview also went great but you could not get that job. At that time you would be upset and feel unwanted.
But stop for a while and think what was the reason for not getting the job and you realize that you need to improve your skills and need to learn new software.
A capable person will not cry over his rejection, rather he will fill the gap that was left in his interview. He will learn the things that were required.
Now suppose you have improved yourself and after some time, you come to know that the skill you have acquired and the software you have learned, many big MNCs have launched job openings related to that skill and even with great packages and you have a golden chance.
Crying over rejection or learning from it is totally your choice. If someone ever gets rejection in love, then remember that person has lost you, you have not lost him, he has given you a chance to find such a person in your life who can love you truly and is afraid to lose you.
Just try to learn from rejection.
2) Remind yourself of your worth
Know your worth. Don’t feel unwanted if someone rejects you. Just understand that maybe you can’t give them what they want or your capability is something else or you want to do something else. You may not be made for that work. Not every person needs to know everything in this life.
Understand that every person has a different personality. Every person has his speciality. If you know your speciality and your worth, you don’t require any compliments from others about yourself.
3) What is the meaning of rejection for you?
Try to understand why this fear of rejection gives you anxiety. Maybe you are afraid of rejection in love because you don’t want to live lonely or you are afraid of being rejected from a job because you have no plan B and you are afraid of the financial crisis.
Tell me one thing, is this fear a solution to anything?
The solution to all these problems is not fear. The solution is to make strategies that what can you do if something bad happens in your life or how will you face them and conquer them.
4) Face the fear
Learn to face your fear. You think that if you will not face what you are afraid of, you will not get rejection. But the reality is that if you keep on fearing like this, you will never get to your destination. You have to face every situation whether it’s good or bad. Only then you will get success.
You may face rejection along the way. But at least try, keep doing it till you reach your destination.
5) Stop negative self–talk
You are busy talking negatively to yourself. Just stop it. Whenever a person faces rejection, he keeps on finding mistakes in himself
- “I have spoiled everything” or
- “I’m not good enough” or
- “I don’t know anything” or
- “I am very boring.”
All these things make you believe that if you have faced rejection, then it is your fault, you do not have to cry over these mistakes, you have to learn something from them. Yes, it may be your mistake, but you have to rectify that mistake. Don’t cry over it, improve it and stop cursing yourself.
This negative self-talk is destroying your confidence. Your positive thinking may not be able to run things as you want, but this positive thinking plays a great role in changing your attitude and boosting your confidence. If you believe in yourself then you can achieve anything and words like rejection will be very small in front of you.
Keep all these things in mind for moving forward in life.
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